Astrology Parents House Full Guide: Your Bond with Parents & Native Family Impact, All in This House

In life, there are many things we can choose.

We can choose our job, our friends, and our partner.

But there’s one thing you can’t choose — your parents.

What kind of family you’re born into, what your parents are like, what your childhood was like — all of these are fate.

These things shape you deeply. Your personality, your habits, the way you handle things, how you get along with others, your attitude toward relationships…

Every part of you bears the mark of your family of origin.

In Zi Wei Dou Shu (Purple Star Astrology), the Parents Palace is what we look at to examine one’s family of origin and relationship with parents.

Today, let’s talk about the Parents Palace.

First things first: What exactly does the Parents Palace govern?

The Parents Palace, as the name suggests, is for reading matters related to one’s parents.

But what exactly does it cover? A lot of people aren’t clear on that.

Let me break it down for you. The Parents Palace mainly governs these areas:

First, your parents’ circumstances. What kind of people are your parents? What’s their personality like? How’s their health? How’s their career? Are they well-off? You can get a general sense of all these from the Parents Palace.

Second, your relationship with your parents. Are you closer to your dad or your mom? Do you get along well with them? Is your relationship warm and loving, or full of love-hate tension? Do you talk about everything, or struggle to find common ground? All of these are also reflected in the Parents Palace.

Third, the impact of your family of origin. How was your childhood? Was it happy and fulfilling, or full of scars? Did your family of origin nurture you, or leave you with trauma? These are also hidden in the Parents Palace.

Fourth, heredity and inheritance. Who do you look like? Who do you take after in personality? Who do you share talents with? What strengths and flaws will you inherit from your parents? Even what family property you might inherit from them — the Parents Palace governs these too.

Fifth, documents and benefactors. This is something a lot of people don’t know. The Parents Palace also governs paperwork, certificates, exams, and relationships with superiors. In ancient times, parents represented authority, elders, and protection. So you can also look to the Parents Palace to see if you get along well with elders, or if your exams will go smoothly.

So you see, the Parents Palace covers more than you might think.

It’s not just about your relationship with your mom and dad — it reveals the underlying tone of your whole life.

Auspicious Stars in the Parents Palace: Kids doted on by their parents are the happiest

Zi Wei (Purple Star) in the Parents Palace: A formidable mom or dad

Zi Wei is the emperor star. When Zi Wei falls in the Parents Palace, it means one of your parents is especially strong-willed and capable.

It could be your dad, or it could be your mom.

Whoever it is, their word is law at home, and they hold a high position in the family.

People with Zi Wei in the Parents Palace:

- Generally have well-off parents with status, ability, and prestige.

- But their parents are quite domineering, with high expectations and strict rules.

- They grew up a little afraid of their parents, never daring to talk back or act out of line.

Pros: Your parents are capable, can provide you with good material conditions, and will help you out at critical moments.

Cons: Your parents are so domineering that you easily feel pressured and misunderstood.

Advice for you: Try to understand your parents. They might not be good at showing love, but they truly want what’s best for you. Now that you’re grown, try having conversations with them as equals.

Tian Ji (Heavenly Secret) in the Parents Palace: Worrywart parents

Tian Ji is the star of wisdom and movement. When Tian Ji falls in the Parents Palace, your parents worry constantly.

What do they worry about? They worry about you.

They worry about your studies, your work, your love life, and even more about your marriage and having kids.

People with Tian Ji in the Parents Palace:

- Have very smart parents who think fast and consider every angle.

- Are cared for deeply by their parents, who meddle in every little detail of their lives.

- But sometimes the over-involvement makes you feel annoyed and like you’re not trusted.

Pros: Your parents care about you, think of everything for your sake, and can give you good advice.

Cons: They stick their nose in too much, which easily leads to conflicts. Also, your parents tend to overthink, so their health might not be great.

Advice for you: Communicate more with your parents. They worry because they don’t know what’s going on with you. Tell them more about your life to put their minds at ease.

Tai Yang (Sun) in the Parents Palace: A warm family

Tai Yang is the star of brightness and yang energy. When Tai Yang falls in the Parents Palace, your home is full of sunshine.

People with Tai Yang in the Parents Palace:

- Have cheerful, warm parents and a great family atmosphere.

- Their father (or another male elder) is a huge help and role model for them.

- Grew up in a loving environment and have a sunny personality.

Pros: A warm family, plenty of fatherly love (or love from a male elder), and a great personality.

Cons: You might be a little spoiled and not very independent. Also, your parents care too much about saving face.

Advice for you: Cherish your family. Having a warm family of origin is such a blessing.

Wu Qu (Martial Arts) in the Parents Palace: A mom or dad who’s great at making money

Wu Qu is the star of wealth and military leadership. When Wu Qu falls in the Parents Palace, your parents are very good at making money.

People with Wu Qu in the Parents Palace:

- Have parents with good wealth luck; the family is well-off and never short on money.

- Have parents who are pragmatic, capable, and have strong execution skills.

- But their parents might not be good at expressing feelings and are rather serious.

Pros: Good family financial situation, no need to worry about money.

Cons: The family atmosphere might feel a little cold, with a lack of emotional communication.

Advice for you: Your parents might not say sweet things, but they love you in another way — by giving you a better life. Understand their way of showing love.

Tian Tong (Heavenly Unity) in the Parents Palace: Gentle, kind parents

Tian Tong is the star of fortune and enjoyment. When Tian Tong falls in the Parents Palace, your parents are especially gentle and kind.

People with Tian Tong in the Parents Palace:

- Have good-tempered parents who rarely yell or hit their kids.

- Have a relaxed, happy family atmosphere, where everyone gets along like friends.

- Are doted on by their parents, who hate to see them suffer.

Pros: A happy childhood, loved by your parents, and a good personality.

Cons: You might be too well-protected, a little naive, and a bit delicate.

Advice for you: It’s great to have parents who love you, but you also need to learn to be independent. Your parents can’t be with you forever — you have to walk a lot of roads on your own.

Lian Zhen (Upright Chastity) in the Parents Palace: A love-hate relationship

Lian Zhen is the secondary peach blossom star and also the star of imprisonment. When Lian Zhen falls in the Parents Palace, your relationship with your parents is a bit complicated.

People with Lian Zhen in the Parents Palace:

- Have good-looking, talented, charming parents.

- But their relationship with their parents is hot and cold. When it’s good, it’s really good; when it’s bad, it’s really tense.

- Their parents might have a bad temper, or have too high expectations of them.

Pros: Your parents are capable and talented, and you’ve inherited good traits from them.

Cons: A complicated, love-hate relationship that easily leads to distance and misunderstanding.

Advice for you: Keeping a little distance from your parents actually works better. Living together every day makes it easy to fight, but after some time apart, you’ll miss each other again.

Tian Fu (Heavenly Treasury) in the Parents Palace: A family with solid savings

Tian Fu is the star of the treasury and wealth storage. When Tian Fu falls in the Parents Palace, your family has a solid financial foundation.

People with Tian Fu in the Parents Palace:

- Have parents who know how to live well and save money; the family is well-off.

- Have steady, reliable parents you can count on.

- Never lack good food or daily necessities; your quality of life is guaranteed.

Pros: Solid family savings, reliable parents, and a stable life.

Cons: Your parents might be quite conservative and not very supportive of you taking risks. They might also be a bit stingy.

Advice for you: Be grateful for the foundation your parents built for you. But your own life is still yours to forge. Don’t rest on your family’s laurels.

Tai Yin (Moon) in the Parents Palace: A gentle mother

Tai Yin is the moon star, a yin star that governs maternal nature and gentleness. When Tai Yin falls in the Parents Palace, your mother (or another female elder) has a huge influence on you.

People with Tai Yin in the Parents Palace:

- Have a gentle, thoughtful, capable mother who takes great care of the home.

- Are closer to their mother, and willing to tell her everything.

- Are deeply influenced by their mother; many of your habits and personality traits take after her.

Pros: Plenty of motherly love, a happy childhood, and a sense of inner security.

Cons: You might be a bit dependent on your mother and not very independent. Also, your mother might spoil you too much.

Advice for you: A mother’s love is a wonderful thing, but you also need to learn to fly on your own. You can’t hide under your mother’s wing your whole life.

Tan Lang (Greedy Wolf) in the Parents Palace: Fun, interesting parents

Tan Lang is the peach blossom star and the star of many talents. When Tan Lang falls in the Parents Palace, your parents are especially fun and interesting.

People with Tan Lang in the Parents Palace:

- Have multi-talented parents who know how to have fun and enjoy life.

- Get along with their parents like friends, with almost no generation gap.

- Have a home that’s always full of guests and lively.

Pros: Great family atmosphere, a friend-like relationship with your parents, and a fun childhood.

Cons: Your parents might not be very reliable — they love to play and don’t pay much attention to you. Also, the family has high expenses.

Advice for you: It’s great to be friends with your parents, but you should be selective about taking their advice. After all, sometimes they’re even more playful than you are.

Ju Men (Huge Gate) in the Parents Palace: A noisy, argumentative family

Ju Men is the star of speech and darkness. When Ju Men falls in the Parents Palace, your home is full of arguments.

People with Ju Men in the Parents Palace:

- Have parents who fight often, or you yourself fight with your parents a lot.

- Have parents who speak harshly and easily hurt people’s feelings.

- Have a home full of gossip and conflicts, big and small, that never seem to end.

Pros: Your parents actually have a sharp tongue but a soft heart — they love you deep down.

Cons: All the fighting hurts relationships, and the bad family atmosphere affects your personality.

Advice for you: Understand your parents’ way of communicating. They might not know how to speak nicely, but their hearts are in the right place. Now that you’re grown, try communicating with them in a more mature way.

Tian Xiang (Heavenly Minister) in the Parents Palace: Steady, reliable parents

Tian Xiang is the seal star and the star of assistance. When Tian Xiang falls in the Parents Palace, your parents are especially steady and reliable.

People with Tian Xiang in the Parents Palace:

- Have parents who do things methodically; the house is always clean and well-organized.

- Have responsible parents who always keep their promises to you.

- Have a stable family relationship, with no big ups and downs.

Pros: Reliable parents and a stable family that gives you a sense of security.

Cons: Things might be a little too proper and dull, with a lack of fun.

Advice for you: Your parents gave you a stable home, and that’s the greatest wealth of all. But your own life can be lived more vibrantly.

Tian Liang (Heavenly Bridge) in the Parents Palace: Parents who are like teachers

Tian Liang is the star of blessings, longevity, and noble purity. When Tian Liang falls in the Parents Palace, your parents are like your teachers and elders.

People with Tian Liang in the Parents Palace:

- Have learned, experienced, wise parents.

- Have parents who value your education highly and teach you a lot about how to be a good person.

- Have parents with good fortune and long lives, who are your strong backing.

Pros: Your parents are your life mentors who can teach you so much. They live long lives and can stay with you for a long time.

Cons: Your parents might be a bit nagging, traditional, and stubborn.

Advice for you: Listen to your parents more. They’ve eaten more salt than you’ve eaten rice. Some truths you’ll only understand when you’re older.

Qi Sha (Seven Killings) in the Parents Palace: Strict, harsh parents

Qi Sha is the star of military leadership, a malefic star, and the star of pioneering. When Qi Sha falls in the Parents Palace, your parents are especially strict.

People with Qi Sha in the Parents Palace:

- Have parents with bad tempers, high expectations, and strict rules.

- Got beaten and yelled at a lot growing up.

- Have a relationship with their parents that’s a mix of fear and respect, not very close.

Pros: Your parents’ strictness made you hardworking and independent.

Cons: You have some childhood trauma, aren’t close to your parents, and lack a sense of warmth.

Advice for you: Your parents’ methods might have been wrong, but their intentions were good. Now that you’re grown, try to understand them and forgive them. Letting them go means letting yourself go too.

Po Jun (Broken Army) in the Parents Palace: A turbulent family

Po Jun is the star of consumption, vanguard, and change. When Po Jun falls in the Parents Palace, your family is prone to upheaval.

People with Po Jun in the Parents Palace:

- Have an unstable family; maybe your parents moved often or changed jobs a lot.

- Or maybe your parents had a bad relationship, fought constantly, or even got divorced.

- Grew up going through a lot of changes, so you’re very adaptable.

Pros: Strong adaptability — you can survive in any environment. You’re independent and matured early.

Cons: An unstable family and a childhood lacking a sense of security.

Advice for you: The past is in the past. Whatever your family of origin gave you, good or bad, it’s all history now. You get to choose your own life.

Malefic Stars in the Parents Palace: Wounds from the family of origin

Qing Yang (Blue Sheep) in the Parents Palace: Growing up with scolding and beatings

People with Qing Yang in the Parents Palace got beaten a lot growing up.

Your parents have short fuses, and you’re stubborn too — every conversation turns into a fight.

But the good news is, beatings and scoldings are just their way of showing love — they don’t have any ill will.

Advice for you: Now that you’re grown, make peace with your parents. Their generation didn’t know any other way to raise kids.

Tuo Luo (Twisting Dipper) in the Parents Palace: An entangled relationship with your parents

People with Tuo Luo in the Parents Palace have a very tangled relationship with their parents.

You want to be close, but you can’t. You want to stay away, but you can’t let go.

You torture each other, but you also depend on each other.

Advice for you: Keep an appropriate distance. Being too close easily leads to mutual hurt, but being too far apart makes you miss each other.

Huo Xing (Fire Star) in the Parents Palace: A home full of tension

People with Huo Xing in the Parents Palace have a home that’s like a powder keg.

The smallest thing can spark a fight, and no one backs down.

But the fights blow over as fast as they start. Once it’s over, everything goes back to normal.

Advice for you: They’re family — don’t take it too seriously. Fight all you want, but don’t hold a grudge.

Ling Xing (Bell Star) in the Parents Palace: Unresolved knots in the family

People with Ling Xing in the Parents Palace always have some awkward, unresolved issues at home.

They’re too small to bring up out loud, but they bother you if you don’t talk about them.

Everyone knows what’s going on, but no one says it out loud.

Advice for you: Say what’s on your mind. All that guessing and overthinking is what hurts relationships the most.

Di Kong and Di Jie (Earth Emptiness and Earth Robbery) in the Parents Palace: A weak bond with your parents

People with Di Kong and Di Jie in the Parents Palace have a rather weak karmic bond with their parents.

Maybe you grew up not living with your parents.

Maybe one or both of your parents passed away early, or were away from home for years.

Or maybe you lived together, but never had a deep emotional connection.

Advice for you: If the bond is weak, so be it. Your parents have their own struggles, and you have your own life. Living well on your own is the most important thing.

Final thoughts

People with a favorable Parents Palace are lucky.

Kids who grow up with love carry a different kind of confidence.

If your Parents Palace isn’t favorable, don’t lose heart.

Wounds from your family of origin can be healed.

What your parents couldn’t give you, you can give to yourself.

You can’t choose your parents, but you can choose what kind of person to be.

You can’t choose your family of origin, but you can choose what kind of family to give your own children.

The past is already gone.

The future is still in your hands.