Why Do Some People Carry Everything Alone Their Whole Life? — Seven Killings Star in Astrology

There’s a type of person who never says “I can’t do it.”

No matter how tough things get, their first instinct isn’t to ask for help — it’s “I’ll figure it out on my own.” They earn their own money when they’re short, cover gaps themselves when they’re understaffed, and pick themselves up when they fall.

They seem unbreakable, but only they know the truth: it’s not that they don’t want to rely on others — they don’t dare to.

In Zi Wei Dou Shu (Purple Star Astrology), this trait of “carrying everything on your own” is often linked to one star — the Seven Killings Star (Qi Sha).

1. Seven Killings: The General Star in Zi Wei Dou Shu

Seven Killings is one of the 14 main stars. Its Five Elements attribute is Metal (some say Fire and Metal). In ancient times, it was called the “General Star” or the “Star of Solitude and Hardship.”

It governs the following areas:

Courage and boldness: whether you dare to do what others won’t;

Independence and self-reliance: whether you can handle things on your own;

Transformation and breaking deadlocks: whether you thrive at forging new paths in chaos;

Solitude and friction: whether you push people away and narrow your own path;

Stress resilience and toughness: whether you can hold on in desperate situations.

At its core, Seven Killings is defined by “killing” — decisiveness, resolve, and leaving no room for retreat.

2. People with a Strong Seven Killings: Truly Bold, Truly Capable

People with a well-placed, prosperous Seven Killings usually have these strengths:

First, they dare to make decisions. While others are still hesitating, they’ve already taken action. That kind of courage is rare.

Second, they have extremely high stress tolerance. The more critical the situation, the calmer and more steadfast they become.

Third, they have relentless execution. Once a decision is made, they see it through no matter how hard it gets.

Fourth, they refuse to admit defeat. The more people write them off, the more determined they are to prove others wrong.

Fifth, they can build something new. They excel at starting from scratch, fighting tough battles, and cleaning up messes.

These are the people who carve out a place for themselves in spaces no one else dares to enter.

3. The Pitfall of Seven Killings: Turning “I Can Do It Myself” Into “I Can Only Do It Myself”

Nearly all of Seven Killings’ weaknesses stem from the same pattern — excessive independence.

First, they refuse to ask for help. Even for things that could be solved with a single sentence, they insist on fumbling through it alone for three days.

Second, they push people away. Their overly strong, blunt demeanor gradually makes those around them hesitant to get close.

Third, their path grows narrower over time. Because they refuse to form alliances or leverage others’ strength, their available options keep shrinking.

Fourth, they’re prone to extreme ups and downs. Boldness is a strength, but going too far leads to risk. People with Seven Killings often experience dramatic life fluctuations.

Fifth, they burn themselves out. Carrying everything alone for too long takes a toll on both physical and emotional health.

What Seven Killings needs most isn’t greater ability — it’s “letting others in.”

4. The Lesson for Seven Killings: Learning to “Leverage Others’ Strength”

First, practice saying “can you help me with this.” Start with the smallest things. You’ll find most people are actually willing to help — you just never asked.

Second, distinguish between “what you can carry” and “what you should carry.” Being able to handle it doesn’t mean you have to. Some things are meant to be team responsibilities, and carrying them alone actually harms the whole group.

Third, find someone you can talk things through with. Seven Killings makes decisions too quickly, so they need someone by their side who can hold them back and help them think things through clearly.

Fourth, allow yourself to fail once. What Seven Killings fears most isn’t failure itself — it’s the idea of “not being allowed to fail.” That obsession leads to many reckless decisions.

Fifth, tone down your sharp edge. This isn’t about making yourself weaker — it’s about not drawing your sword when you don’t need to. Showing too much edge scares people off.

5. Seven Killings in Different Palaces: Different Key Focuses

Seven Killings in the Life Palace: You are bold, independent, and resilient — but be careful not to live like an island.

Seven Killings in the Career Palace: You’re suited for pioneering, highly competitive industries, such as entrepreneurship, sales, military/police work, and engineering.

Seven Killings in the Wealth Palace: You make money through courage and action, with big ups and downs — always leave yourself a way out.

Seven Killings in the Spouse Palace: You tend to be dominant in relationships, and need to learn to compromise and communicate.

Seven Killings in the Fortune Palace: You find it hard to feel spiritually satisfied, and need to learn to slow down and enjoy life.

6. The True Gift of Seven Killings: The Ability to Break Deadlocks

Having talked about its weaknesses, we also need to highlight Seven Killings’ most precious quality.

When most people feel trapped, they only think “what do I do?” — Seven Killings thinks “I’ll smash right through this.”

That ability to break through deadlocks is something many people never learn in their entire lives.

When all paths are blocked, the person who dares to break through the wall is the one who finds a way out.

The problem isn’t that “you’re too independent” — it’s that you’ve treated independence as your only option.

7. If You’re Also Someone Who “Carries Everything on Your Own”

I want to ask you: when was the last time you truly relied on someone else?

If you can’t remember, it might not be that no one is willing to help you — it’s that you never gave them a chance.

The line “I can only rely on myself” is sometimes a fact, and sometimes a form of self-protection.

People with Seven Killings often got hurt at some point — let down, abandoned, betrayed — and then made up their minds: I’ll never rely on anyone ever again.

But that decision, while it protected you, also trapped you.

Final Thoughts

**May you have the strength to carry an entire situation on your own, and the courage to say “help me” when you need it.**

True strength isn’t needing no one — it’s daring to ask for help when you need it, and having people who are willing to show up.

You can win a single battle fighting alone, but you can’t win a lifetime of them.