Which Star in Your Children Palace Dictates How You Lead Teams? Full Guide to 14 Major Stars’ Positions

A supervisor once complained to me that the subordinates he leads still can’t get the hang of things even after he’s taught them three times.

I asked him, “When you teach them, do you want them to learn, or do you want them to learn fast?”

He paused for a second and said, “Is there a difference?”

There’s a huge difference.

In the astrological chart, the sector that governs this area is called the Children Palace.

The Children Palace isn’t just about kids. It covers everything “you bring up and nurture”: children, younger people, subordinates, students, and even things you make with your own hands.

Put simply, it’s about how you lead and guide people.

The Children Palace Isn’t About “How Many Kids You’ll Have”

When a lot of people hear “Children Palace,” they immediately ask, “How many kids am I destined to have?”

That question won’t get you anywhere useful.

The Children Palace describes your relationship pattern with “those who are junior to you”: what kind of leadership style you have, what kind of people you tend to bring up, and what mistakes you’re most likely to make when guiding others.

This is just as useful for people who don’t have kids. After all, you’ll always have to train new hires and lead projects.

Let’s go through the 14 main stars one by one below.

Ziwei in the Children Palace: Your Kids Are Independent — Be a Director, Not a Nanny

People with Ziwei in the Children Palace usually raise kids or lead subordinates who have strong minds of their own.

Say one thing, and they’ll come back with three. Give them a task, and they’ll want to do it their own way.

The upside? These people can handle responsibility.

The downside? You’ll probably be tempted to step in and take over.

Decision tip: Set the direction, not every single step. Ziwei-type people don’t mind high standards — they hate being treated like they can’t think for themselves.

Tianji in the Children Palace: Smart, But Can’t Sit Still

People with Tianji in the Children Palace have kids who are quick-witted, pick up new skills fast, and switch interests just as quickly.

One day they’re learning piano, the next they want to paint, the day after that they’re taking apart a radio.

You’ll probably get anxious: “Why can’t they stick to anything?”

Decision tip: Give them hands-on projects, not sit-and-listen lessons. Tianji-type people learn by doing, not by listening.

Taiyang in the Children Palace: You Light Up Other People’s Kids

People with Taiyang in the Children Palace are incredibly dedicated and outgoing when guiding others.

The problem is, your energy often goes to people outside your circle: your coworkers’ kids, new team members, favors for friends.

By the time you get back to your own people, you’re already drained.

Decision tip: Save your best hour for the people closest to you. Outsiders need you — but your own people need you more.

Wuqu in the Children Palace: Focus on Rules, Not Emotions

People with Wuqu in the Children Palace lead with systems.

They set clear standards, measure results, and keep rewards and punishments straightforward.

The upside? The people you lead build solid foundational skills.

The downside? You might miss when someone is really struggling.

Decision tip: After laying out the rules, add, “Let me know if you run into trouble.” This doesn’t break the rules — it makes them easier to follow.

Tiantong in the Children Palace: Gentle, But Dependent

People with Tiantong in the Children Palace raise or lead people who are good-natured and highly cooperative.

But they can also be overly dependent. They wait for you to assign every task, and won’t move unless you push them.

Decision tip: Don’t shield them from everything. Leave at least one thing they have to handle on their own — start with small tasks.

Lianzhen in the Children Palace: Strong-Willed — Too Much Control Will Backfire

People with Lianzhen in the Children Palace have kids or subordinates with a bit of a fiery streak.

It’s not that they’re being difficult — they just have their own principles. The more you pressure them, the more stubborn they get.

Decision tip: Give them an area where they can call the shots. As long as Lianzhen-type people have one space that’s fully their own, they’ll be willing to cooperate on everything else.

Tianfu in the Children Palace: They Need Trust, Not Instructions

People with Tianfu in the Children Palace bring up steady, reliable people who thrive when given responsibility.

Give them resources, and they’ll get the job done. Give them a long list of step-by-step orders, and they’ll slow down.

Decision tip: Give them resources, authority, and time. What Tianfu-type people fear isn’t hard work — it’s being micromanaged.

Taiyin in the Children Palace: Thoughtful, But Keep Their Feelings Hidden

People with Taiyin in the Children Palace have kids who don’t show their emotions on their face.

They won’t say when they’re hurt, and they won’t brag when they’re praised. You might think everything’s fine, but they’re holding it all inside.

Decision tip: Check in proactively, and ask specific questions. Don’t just say “How’ve you been?” — ask, “How did that thing from today work out in the end?”

Tanlang in the Children Palace: Wide-Ranging Interests — Don’t Rush to Pick a Path

People with Tanlang in the Children Palace have kids who want to try everything.

They’ll sign up for five classes, love every single one, and never go deep on any of them.

You’ll probably stress out: “Which path should they actually take?”

Decision tip: Before age 15, breadth matters more than depth. Tanlang-type people find their way by trying things, not by picking one path upfront.

Jumen in the Children Palace: They Love to Question and Debate — Don’t Shut Them Down

People with Jumen in the Children Palace have kids who never back down in an argument.

Say one thing, and they’ll push right back. When you explain your reasoning, they’ll look for holes in it.

A lot of parents write this off as disobedience.

Decision tip: Teach them to get their point across clearly, don’t teach them to stay quiet. When used well, Jumen-type people’s sharpness is a real skill — if you suppress it, it turns into resentment.

Tianxiang in the Children Palace: Too Considerate — They Often Put Themselves Last

People with Tianxiang in the Children Palace have kids who are highly cooperative and rarely cause trouble.

They nod along to everything you say, so you assume they’re fine.

Really, they just don’t want to make things hard for you.

Decision tip: Teach them to say “no.” For Tianxiang-type people, learning to set boundaries is the hardest lesson of all — the earlier they learn it, the better.

Tianliang in the Children Palace: Mature Beyond Their Years — Give Them Responsibility

People with Tianliang in the Children Palace have kids who are steadier than their peers.

They love being in charge, love explaining things, and act a bit like little adults.

Decision tip: Give them responsibility, not special treatment. Tianliang-type people grow by feeling needed.

Qisha in the Children Palace: Independent and Tough — Head-On Conflict Will Blow Up

People with Qisha in the Children Palace have kids with tough, unyielding personalities.

They won’t back down, won’t explain themselves, and the more you push them, the more they pull away.

Decision tip: Give them their own “battlefield” to manage. When Qisha-type people have one thing they can win at on their own, their whole demeanor changes.

Pojun in the Children Palace: They Won’t Follow the Path You Laid Out

People with Pojun in the Children Palace have kids who rarely stick to the plans you make for them.

Whatever you arrange, they’ll want to go a different direction.

It’s easy to write this off as rebellion.

Decision tip: Don’t hold them to the path you took. Pojun-type people thrive by breaking old molds. What you can do is make sure they have a place to come back to when they stumble.

Three Self-Checks

First: Find the main star in your Children Palace, and write down the decision tip that goes with it. Just one tip — save it in your phone’s notes app.

Second: Ask yourself, “When I’m guiding someone, am I nurturing them, or am I trying to make them a copy of myself?” These two goals require completely different methods.

Third: Look at the person you’ve been guiding — what trait of yours do they reflect most clearly? That trait is your leadership style, and it’s also your biggest limitation.

Final Thought

The Children Palace isn’t about “what your kids will turn out like.”

It’s about what habits you fall into when leading people, and what kind of people those habits will shape.

Children are mirrors. So are subordinates.

What you see in them is often a reflection of your own approach.

Once you see that clearly, you can change your approach.

The stars are a map, not a verdict.