Xian Hexagram Nine in Third Place: "咸其股 (Xian Qi Gu)" – In Love, Never Lose Yourself to "Whatever He Says Goes"
When you like someone, do you unconsciously follow their lead? You pick up their hobbies, agree with everything they say, and never go against their wishes. You think it’s love, but it’s actually a loss of self. The Nine in the Third Place of the Xian Hexagram (Influence) states: *「咸其股,执其随,往吝」* (Influence in the thigh, cling to followers; going forward brings humiliation) — blind following narrows your path. A good relationship means walking side by side, not one person chasing after the other.